How do you respond to a friendly guy if he’s attractive?
It seems he likes you, enough to look at you, show warmth, and even affection. He hugs you when he sees you. He likes to hang out with you. He might even be texting you a lot and following you around in social media.
Is he just a friend? Is he a potential boyfriend? What in the world is he?
Friendly men are exactly that. FRIENDLY MEN. Is there the word “suitor” somewhere in there? No.
There won’t be even if you wish it so. You can dream all you want, but until this friendly man sets up a date and pays for it, he doesn’t see you in a romantic way.
It is very important that a guy regards you romantically if you want more. When a guy doesn’t see you as romantic material, he will not court you. He will text, hang out, text, hang out, text, ….. anything but court you.
Courtship is a sign that a man is NOT satisfied with friendship, and wants you as a romantic partner. It is also a sign that he wants to cherish you, which places you in a different category.
And a man who insists on waiting for a woman to ask him out, courting HIM, is a man who you can never be sure of and a man who requires you to do the work to earn his attention. There are many women willing to step up to be with such a man. It’s up to each woman to decide what she is willing to do to be in a relationship.
Just remember. If a man you’re attracted to is satisfied being your friend, move on.
There is a huge difference between dating someone and seeing someone.
The word “dating” is being thrown around a lot. It’s a trend to say someone is dating someone even if they are seeing each other without being on a date. People are only hanging out and sleeping together, but tell their friends they are dating.
This is the slippery slope that will get you nowhere except the Danger Zone I talk about in my EGuides.
To avoid deluding yourself, you need to call it what it is. If you’re just having sex with him, say that. If you’re going over to his house to hang out, say that. If all he does is text you, say that. If he took you out once and stopped, say that.
Get the Prize Catch Dictionary so you know your dating terminology and stay realistic about what he is or isn’t doing.
Check your reality here:
1. If you’re seeing a guy, is it on a date he’s planned in advance?
2. When you’re with a guy, who planned it?
3. When you two eat together, who planned it? Where did you eat?
4. When you sleep with a guy, did he make you exclusive first?
5. When you text back and forth, is it about a date he’s discussing with you? An engagement? A marriage proposal?
6. Or is it chitchat that just deprives you of your beauty sleep and strokes his ego?
When you’re just being with a guy, hanging out, or sleeping with him — you are not dating him. Only use the word “date” when he is making plans with you and following through.
Don’t deceive yourself to say you’re dating someone when there is no date to begin with.
And if a guy is dating you forever, never making you exclusive, then no, he is not your boyfriend. He is just a date. He isn’t even a suitor, because a man is a suitor to begin with in order to win your hand in marriage. A man doesn’t become your suitor just to keep you on permanent hold.
Be unflinchingly honest about what is happening. Then and only then will the right guy step up, and you will save valuable time and avoid unnecessary heartache.