Why he won’t give you the full truth

If you’re counting on a guy to give you the whole truth and nothing but the truth, you’re in for a reality check.

Most men are not interested in intentionally hurting women’s feelings or making women angry. Just like when they were little boys they didn’t want to make Mommy mad or cry, as grown men they don’t want to make you mad or cry. Therefore, if they believe the truth might upset you, they will withhold it from you. They’d rather do the following:

• Avoid you. No communication saves them from having to confront your feelings which they do not wish to deal with. The ones who avoid you and leave you hanging are the ones who have difficulty in handling emotions anyway. They don’t want you to question them, blame them, shame them, yell at them, call them names, or hang up on them. They don’t want to get hurt either. They’d rather just move on and hope you forgive them. Do they feel bad? They might. But not bad enough to talk to you and explain themselves. That would be worse than hiding from you. Worse than praying for you to move on and forget about them.

• Give you excuses. They’re super busy at work. They’re not ready for anything serious. They just want to be friends. They’ve got too much going on right now. Is that the truth? Maybe. But it isn’t the whole truth.

• Feed you false promises. These come from men who are all talk and no action. They continue to tell you how great you are, how much they’re into you, and the future plans they want to make with you, etc. But they have yet to carry it out and won’t do so since they’re just delivering false promises. Why do they do this? Because they want to see you happy even though they’re lying. They go for the temporary satisfaction of making you happy knowing they are setting you up to hate them later. These men are far worse than the avoiders and excuse-makers. They are just as afraid of upsetting you, but so weak are they that they can’t even move on and leave you alone. Usually these men eventually ghost you anyway, leaving you scratching your head wondering what you did wrong. Newsflash: You didn’t do anything wrong.

Now that you have an idea why you can’t get the entire truth out of them, you deserve to know the actual truth:

He is not in love with you. He is not that attracted to you anymore. He cannot make a relationship work with you.

One or all of these may be valid. The point is, any one of these is the truth that he did not and could not tell you.

Therefore, understand when you feel confused by his words and behavior or ghosting, you now know the reason. The point of it all is, he just didn’t want to be the bad guy. He would rather you get left high and dry, make you believe something else is going on, or nurture false hope in you to postpone dealing with your feelings. He would rather feel comfortable than be uncomfortable. He’d rather play it safe for himself.

This is why you should never make excuses for him. Nor should you beg for answers when he is being evasive. All you need to know is whether he is showing you interest, willingness, and readiness and proving it via his actions. You don’t need to squeeze the truth out of him. That’s way too much work for a sleeping princess.

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Never too old to be a Prize Catch

I spoke to a 70-something year-old the other day who did not let a man pursue her. Instead, she grew impatient and eagerly invited him over for dinner, let him spend the night, did her utmost to please him sexually, and now wonder why he has been neglecting her.

After I told her about the importance of letting a man ask you out on a date, she argued with me saying he was behaving so well over dinner and looked so happy to sleep with her. I told her, “Of course. He had a free home-cooked meal, got great sex, and didn’t have to win you over—“

She interrupted me. So I let it go. I let her continue to complain about how she gets hurt by men. She insisted on doing it her way which has not worked in securing a committed loving man in her life.

So if you think you don’t get it, there are other women who also don’t get it. And some, like her, are much older than you and may never get it. Don’t fret. Learn what to do now. Young or old, if you are single, you don’t want to meet a potentially wonderful man and not know what to do.

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Announcement

Dear Readers,

I apologize for not posting in a while. Over the years, you have all been faithfully reading my blog and commenting. Your purchases of my EGuides and Email Exchanges have helped support this blog. To you I want to say with warm appreciation, “THANK YOU!”

I believe I’ve covered almost everything there is within my power regarding the topic “Let Men Chase You”, both in the blog and in the EGuides. So I’ve decided to take a break from posting until something warrants writing about that is fresh and new. I believe readers will likely find the answers they need in the blog’s numerous posts, articles, and comments, or by purchasing the EGuides and Email Exchange.

Meanwhile, feel free to ask questions or introduce topics in the comments and I’d be happy to address them.

Since I do not receive any income from the WordPress ads on the blog, your purchase of the EGuides or Email Exchanges will be a contribution that I very much appreciate and value.

I am proud of the fact that this blog has helped to educate a lot of girls and women on the importance of prizing themselves and not be satisfied with crumbs or be mistreated.

Best wishes in implementing the principles. You may not get a perfect man or the man of your dreams, but in following the principles, any man you let in your heart will cherish you absolutely.

One Truth

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Love can’t be planned

There are some things in life that do not go according to plan.

Study plans can work. Business plans can work. Career plans can work. Financial plans can work. Life plans can work — maybe.

But love? Love is never a plan nor can it be planned. You can go out there and do everything possible to the best of your knowledge, but you may end up meeting no one you can love or who can love you back.

When you aren’t meeting anyone, you just keep going on. You don’t get obsessed or frustrated — you go about your life and focus on what makes you happy.

However, what if you end up being pursued by someone who doesn’t fit your idea of a boyfriend or partner? Do you reject the opportunity or do you give it a try?

I say, “Give it a try.” Unless the guy is harmful to your well-being or grosses you out, it doesn’t hurt to chance something that could turn out to be something solid and beautiful and guess what? Exactly what you need that you didn’t know about!

Just maybe — maybe you don’t know everything. Maybe you aren’t aware that your career would skyrocket if you were with some easygoing guy who gives you peace instead of that exciting hunk who would give you emotional pain. Maybe you aren’t aware you prefer a guy who can whip up delicious waffles for breakfast instead of a guy who likes to sleep in and cuddle. Maybe you aren’t aware you would actually love to travel around the world with a nomad even though you’re programmed to date a guy who wants to settle down and have babies.

We don’t know everything, and that includes knowing ourselves. We don’t always know our deepest needs and desires. We’re too busy living our lives to find out, so it manifests itself in our choices. Then after we choose, we find out that “Wow, this is NOT what I need!” or “Wow, this is EXACTLY what I need!”

So, remember, don’t cast individuals with a broad brush and label them too quickly. Unless they are harmful or disgusting, love can be your sweetest surprise.

Don’t plan love.

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When words speak louder than action

Does action always speak louder than words? You’d think so. But there is an exception.

What if a guy is doing all the right things: asking and taking you out, paying for dates, making the first move, introducing you to his friends and family, etc.

Yet….he keeps telling you he isn’t looking for a girlfriend. He isn’t ready for a commitment. He just wants to have fun. He thinks of you as a friend. Yada yada yada.

What should you believe? His actions or his words?

In this case, where you are investing time and energy in being with him, you should believe his WORDS. Why? Because a guy who wants a committed relationship would NEVER say those things. If he is serious about being your boyfriend one day, the last thing a guy wants to do is to turn you off — essentially lose your interest .

Don’t get caught up in the whirlwind of romance if his words don’t match what he’s doing. If what he says tells you he sees no future with you, the first thing you should do is to end the whole charade. You’re clearly not into this kind of fun and games if you want a boyfriend.

Perpetual daters are those who want female companionship without the obligation of being a boyfriend, so that when they do become ready one day or meet a woman they truly fancy, they’d drop you. Or keep stringing you along on the side if they have time for you. You don’t want to be that gal.

So, yes, I stress making sure the guy you’re seeing is taking action. But if his words contradict what he is doing, and he is not on the same page you’re on, then all the wining and dining will only waste your time and cause you emotional pain.

Save your love for a man whose actions and words make sense together.

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